I have been thinking lately on arranged marraige... if and whenever it will happen
1. The whole pomp and ceromonies ...need somehow to manage people and convince them to scrap it.
2. When I meet the girl for he first time...what do I say...and what do I talk about..hmmm .... need to think here..need to keep the conversation interesting or find a way to make the person realize that it is not a good choice to go ahead..
3. Now if the marraige actually happens...the first night is not a problem..... I don't think sex would be applicable here...it would be more like conversations and to worry whether she will snore as well ...
4. Now how will my life be...in the first few days... need some thoughts here
See these are things about marraige which are really scary to me..
9 comments:
Interesting!!! :)
LOL@worry whether she will snore as well ...
find a way to make the person realize that it is not a good choice to go ahead...
I can't stop laughing at that sentence of yours!
i think one can do very less about the pomp and ceremonies at marriage. Its more for elders than for you. So somewhere we will have to give in.
I am sure the girl will also have the same thing in her mind, what should she say or how should she be when she meets a guy in an arranged marriage. How much is ok to talk...etc ..id say just go with the flow dont think too much about it.
life for the first few days will be full of attention from everyone i guess. time will just fly visiting relatives and all that goes with after marriage formalities
now for me all these are no worry ...the real worry would be...Can i live with this person for the rest of my life, will he make it worth it, will I make it worth it for him, will we make each others journey fruitful and happy...
there is very little one can make out from arranged marriage set up...which is GOOD according to me...you know why...all your life will go in discovering things about each other :) and isayhi kat jayega zindagi...no time to reflect and feel bad about anything lol
~ from another unmarried woman
@R & Jas :)
@Another Unmarried your Woman - Dude please identify yourself..no point hiding behind an assumed name
To comment on your comments :)
The pomp and ceromonies have to go... that is not an option.. it is expensive, time consuming and one thing that I would not want for me...
The problem is where does the flow stop and the edges come...
The attention bit and visiting relatives is a big issue... however considering that I stay in Delhi and soon to move somewhere else down south...won't be too much of a problem
The part about realization of living with a person will come a bit later... I am just trying to think now...
As per discovery...I do not think it stops at any give time .. in any kind of relationship
It does not stop, but when in courtship...trying and finding out things about a person gets on your nerves. But in marriage, you are bounded by many things, there you have no choice but just go with the flow.
And, what is in a name!
Well Anon - what's in a name ...hmm..Read " Chai Ki Dukan" blog ... for the answer...
And I do not agree with not having a choice either...
There is always a choice... getting bound because you are married is no answer...it shows helplessness..
Aro...
you are the worst person to talk about arranged marriages! I hope you know that!
I have my empathy and sympathy with someone who gets into a discussion with you about the entire Arranged Marriage Project. I am going to start writing about AMP soon on CKD too :)
I will have a look at the blog you mentioned. But in an online forum where i read what you write, where i probably will never get to meet you, Why are we so concerned about the name.
Its just a random blog hopper writing because the blog hopper find the topic interesting and can relate to it.
Should the content matter or the name matter.
I get a feeling that Anonymous straight commnets worry you. I will keep in mind Not to comment.
Sorry if i cause you any trouble
@pete...yup...what is AMP...
@Anon.. I associate a name with a pic...that is the way I am...no your straight comments do not worry me..infact keep on writing... that is the way I like it...however how will I know that it is you if somebody else posts as annon... so what you could do is put yourself as annonymous straight comment or ASM from here on....deal???
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